Meeting your beau’s parents for the first time is definitely one of the most nerve-wracking moments in your life – and the same thing also goes for your significant other. They tend to stress over meeting and impressing your parents that some of them even lose sleep thinking about this matter. To help both you and your partner, we listed down some tricks on how you can relieve the anxiety and tension for when the ‘big day’ comes.
- Boost His Confidence
One of the most important things you can do for your partner before the actual meeting is to build up his confidence. Assure him that there are a lot of reasons why you fell in love with him, which is why there’s no reason your parents won’t love him as well. Doing this will surely help in keeping things light and in emphasizing the good qualities of your beau.
- Get Some Prep Work Done
Inform your partner ahead of time about the weird family traditions that you practise, as well as the topics he should avoid bringing up. After all, a casual remark from your partner might be offensive to your parents. So make sure that you make a list of all the sensitive issues that he should never discuss.
- Avoid Overwhelming Him
While informing him about the little secrets and quirks of your family can be helpful, avoid bogging him down with negative references. If you only talk about the bad stuff about your family, he might end up feeling unnecessarily overwhelmed. For your partner to bring his best foot forward, he needs to get through this without any negative expectations.
- Keep the Meeting Short
Sure, meeting your parents is a big deal but it doesn’t have to be a five-course meal long – and it certainly shouldn’t happen on special occasions like a Christmas or an anniversary party. An additional pressure to impress might be added during big family gatherings compared to a casual dinner.
- Never Leave Him Alone
We know that you want to see if your beau will survive, but leaving him alone with your brothers or your father is a huge no-no. You don’t need to stay glued to him either, but checking in on him every now and them will surely help in keeping him calm. Plus, it can be easy to get lost in a big family, so let him know that you got his back covered.
Meeting each other’s parents is certainly one of the most stressful aspects of being in relationship. But simply reassuring your man about his good points is already enough to drive all the nerves away when this special day finally comes.